• 2024/ 10/ 22
• Contributor:Hiroe Fujisawa
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Is that behavior...not OK?

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Today's topic is what not to say or do on a first meeting

There seem to be some commonalities in the words and actions of men that make you think, "Hmm? I'm not really comfortable with this guy..." when you meet them for the first time.
I'm sure everyone has thought at least once, "I don't like this feeling..."
Let me introduce a few such situations.

First,People who only talk about themselvesEven when I asked questions and tried to expand the conversation, they just kept talking about themselves.
You might think, "Maybe you could have asked me a bit more about that?"
Conversation is a mutual exchange, but to be honest, it can be tiring if someone keeps talking to themselves.

next,People who make insensitive comments about appearance.
Don't you feel a bit uneasy when someone says to you, "Maybe you should wear that outfit like this," or "That doesn't really suit you, does it? You'd be better off with this!?"
I feel like it's quite insensitive to point out someone's appearance on the first meeting.
It seems a little early to be talking about appearances when you don't know each other that well yet.

after,Crude jokes and overly familiar behaviorAlso a bit iffy.
I can't help but be put off, thinking, "What kind of closeness is that, suddenly starting with dirty jokes?"
We've just met, we barely know each other, and if he comes with that kind of attitude, I'd immediately think, "Maybe this guy isn't for me." I wish he'd been a bit more polite and gentlemanly at first.

Someone who keeps asking about private mattersis also not allowed.
It can be a little confusing when someone suddenly asks you something very personal, like "Where do you live?" or "Where do you work?"
I wish they would consider the distance a bit more, or rather, I feel like it's not right to get so close on a first meeting.

そ し て,Not reading the atmospheretype.
A person who goes at their own pace without any regard for the other person's feelings or the flow of the conversation.
When I talk to people like this, I think, "This person has no idea what's going on around them."
It would be much easier to talk if you could observe the other person's reaction a little more when you first meet.

In the end, the important thing about meeting someone for the first time is getting to know each other little by little.
Rather than rushing to show off or trying to close the gap, I think it's better to go at the other person's pace and go at their pace, which will ultimately leave a good impression!

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