• January 2025, 7
• Contributor:Hiroe Fujisawa
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Are you only thinking about yourself? What do people who are chosen have in common?

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Today, I would like to talk a little about the difference between those who are chosen and those who are not chosen in this activity.

???? Why are selfish people not chosen?

These activities tend to be thought of as encounters that are "conditional," but
actually Relationships between peopleIt consists of the following.
Therefore, the most important thing is consideration.

However, sometimes, self-centered people stand out in meeting people.
This applies to both men and women. For example:

・The man tries to do everything at his own pace
・The woman pushes her own desires onto the man

...When something like that happens, you immediately start thinking, "There's probably no next time."

For example, during a meal when you meet for the first time.
The man only talks about himself and doesn't try to listen to the other person.
When a woman only talks about "things she wants and places she wants to go," she doesn't seem to be interested in her partner.

These kinds of discrepancies may seem small, but they are actually very large.
Because the relationships we have in this activity,
The key to whether the relationship will last is being able to respect each other comfortably.

A self-centered attitude tends to lead to a one-way relationship.
Even if the conditions and appearances seem to be compatible, the other person's feelings may not actually be on board.
In that situation, no relationship will last, no matter how good the conditions.

On the other hand, "I want to entertain the other person" or "I want to listen to what the other person has to say first"
People who approach things with this kind of attitude are surprisingly likely to be chosen, and the relationship will continue naturally.

Not "service" but "relationship."
A relationship where only one person benefits may seem good at first, but it doesn't move the heart.

That’s why it’s important to
Rather than "What do I want?"
Try to imagine how the other person feels.

That alone will make a big difference in the quality of your encounters and the comfort of your relationships.

To build a good relationship,
Try to see things from the other person's perspective for a moment.
Every day we feel that such small acts of kindness can lead to wonderful connections.

I would be happy to continue supporting your encounters in the future, however small.
Until the end Thank you for reading.

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