• December 2026, 5
• Contributor:Hiroe Fujisawa
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It's pretty tough when someone can't see themselves objectively.

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Today, I'd like to share a slightly more realistic story.

This applies not only to dating clubs, but also to human relationships in general.
"This person might not be able to see things clearly themselves..."
Don't you ever have moments when you feel that way?

Of course, having confidence is very important.
Liking yourself is also a form of attractiveness.

However, "confidence" and "lack of objectivity" are slightly different things.

for example--
They make huge demands on others, but they don't try to compromise themselves.
My ideals have become too high, and I haven't been able to balance them with reality.
They have too much of a "choosing" mindset and fail to consider how they appear to others.

When things get to this point,
No matter how good the circumstances, human relationships often don't go well.

Even in dating clubs, the more successful you are
Actually, many people are quite able to view themselves objectively.

"How do I appear to others?"
"If I'm asking for something from the other person, am I meeting their expectations?"
People who can take a step back and think things through like that naturally develop empathy for others.

Conversely, if you act solely based on your own ideals and emotions,
Sometimes, we unintentionally tire out the other person.

What's truly important in adult relationships is,
It's not about playing the role of the "perfect version of yourself,"
Being able to understand yourself and then engage with others.

People who can view themselves objectively,
I don't push myself too hard, and I don't push others too hard either.
That's why it's so comfortable being with you.

Human relationships are like a mirror.
What you demand of others actually comes back to you.

That's why sometimes,
It's also a time to reflect on "How do I appear to others?"
It might be important 🌷

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